(NewsNation) — As students across the country prepare to leave for college, many parents are grappling with “empty nest syndrome,” a period of emotional adjustment when children leave home.
Dr. Monica Vermani, a clinical psychologist specializing in family dynamics, says the transition can be challenging for parents who have spent years as primary caregivers.
“Most of us have some sense of feeling overwhelmed thinking about the changes,” Vermani said Sunday on NewsNation’s “Morning in America.” “As much as you’re excited and proud of your children, you’re also worried about them moving out into that world without you.”
Vermani describes empty nest syndrome as a mix of emotions, including grief, loss and anxiety. She advises parents to have compassion for themselves during this period of change.
“There is a loss of identity as a parent that was a primary need and purpose with routines,” Vermani said. “Now you’re letting your child rely on their own skill set that you’ve taught them.”
To cope with the transition, Vermani recommends:
- Forming new connections with partners, friends, and other empty nesters
- Returning to hobbies and routines that may have been neglected
- Having confidence in the skills taught to children
- Avoiding overbearing behavior toward children as they adjust to college life
The psychologist cautions parents against bombarding their children with frequent check-ins or attempting to micromanage from afar.
“You’re just adding more pressure and guilt for them to feel like they’re torn between two worlds, versus just adjusting to one new one,” she said.
While the adjustment period can be difficult, Vermani stresses that it’s a normal part of the parenting journey. She encourages parents to “have faith over fear” that their children will thrive in their new environment.
